Why Men Withdraw from Relationships
To stop relationships cause must
exist. Situation when everything is bad is consequence of problem, but not the
problem itself. The main cause of such a situation is the working of programs
which have been changing.
In this case discussed social
consequences are prompted by biological causes, by working of programs. Working
of programs is inconspicuous, and as a result in most of situation the pair,
who want to stop relationships, cannot explain the real causes of appearing
aversion and annoyance. We will not consider situations, caused by social
circumstances, and variants of deviated or unhealthy relationships.
As it was written
before, men do not have inclination to withdraw from relationship, they have
natural inclination to accumulate women. (Sex and Rank, 19) The main cause for
men to stops relationships is women's poor health, which can be real or
imitated. (SaR, 30) Below some popular variants are discerned, which caused by
healthy changing in working of healthy programs. Additionally, if some
deviations exist they work as amplifiers of problems and stresses.
1
Suppressing of man by woman
Suppressing of man
by woman is the most popular cause of man withdraws from relationships. Women
have a natural inbuilt program to test alpha on durability. (SaR, 33) This is
made by organization of provocations. These acts of women's aggression have
meaning to suppress men. In this case suppression means to provoke stress and
loss of self-control. If man loss self-control it means that man is not real
alpha. “I had seen a fur coat, but you never ever will have such a money to buy
it for me”. In this case woman does not want a fur coat, woman want to test the
man. This is a provocation to test pseudo-alpha on durability. (SaR, 41)
These actions do not suppose to
make man to be submissive. These actions suppose the other pretenders supersede
the suppressed alpha. Sometimes woman understands what she is doing something
wrong, but she cannot hold oneself in check. Program of testing of alpha
suppresses her consciousness.
Most of cases of provocation are
happened when woman suspect of alpha is not real. Pseudo-alpha (25-35 years)
really is not real, by definition it is pseudo-alpha. Because pseudo-alpha is
not real, woman often can get him suppressed. Man gets suppressed, stressed,
sometimes becomes aggressive. During the fit of aggression man often lose
self-control, and the loss of self-control is accepted by woman as addition
sign that alpha is not real.
Sometimes situation is aggravated
by social relations. Problem is that soft suppression is socially and legally
permitted, but hard suppression is prohibited. But most of men do not handle
with technique of soft suppression. In the case of hard suppression, in the
case of using of physical force police appear. Besides some men think that
using of physical force cannot be tolerated because it humiliate men
themselves.
Young pseudo-alphas are suppressed
quicker and easier than mature; pseudo-alphas without social status quicker and
easier than those who possesses it. If pair lives on the wife's territory, man
is suppressed very quickly.
Reaction of man to the suppression
depends on his internal alpha-parameters, which is innate and is changing with
age. Real alpha is enough to looks on woman and says something to stop
suppression behavior. Almost real alpha probably will speak hard or use
physical force. Pseudo-alpha with standard parameters will sometimes bear
situation, then withdraw from relationships. For such a pseudo-alpha is simpler
to go to escape than to suppress woman.
In such situations pseudo-alphas do
not find other partner, but wait some time to rehabilitate themselves.
Sometimes they are back to woman, but then they to go to escape again.
Man without alpha-qualities becomes
henpecked husband. But this is a deviation; we do not discern deviation
situations.
Treatment depends
on social relations and alpha-parameters. For young pairs treatment is
impossible. Woman's provocation of this type is true woman's behavior – alpha
must be tested. And hard force reaction of man on those provocations is right
behavior too. Suppression of these behaviors leads to stresses and
indifference.
2
Switching of woman's programs
It is second popular cause for men withdraw
from relationships.
Healthy woman has program of partner
changing. (SaR, 21) Woman cannot control running of this program. Woman's
programs – but not the woman's consciousness – want to change the chosen one
for alpha, or woman has to find real alpha and want to change her pseudo-alpha.
But woman's consciousness does not want to change partner. This is a typical
conflict of the conscious and the unconscious. Woman suppress her own the
unconscious (her programs). As a result behavior of woman is changing, and man
is understanding that something is going wrong.
Social factors can aggravate
situation. For example, woman is followed to traditional values. Woman begins
to read book like “How to keeps family”. Woman advises with female friends, but
female friends know nothing about unconscious programs. Woman comes to
psychologist and asks how to keep family or relationships. Psychologist give
advices how to keep family, which cannot be kept, because they are paid for
answers how to keep family. Advices do not work.
Woman has got stress situation.
Woman hides stress situation. Man feel that something is wrong. Then man has
got stress too. In such a cases neither woman, nor man cannot understand the
causes of discomfort.
Woman in this condition is
perceived by man as a source of his own stress. Stress is transferred on the
relationships, and then on the man.
Sometimes women use suppression
techniques like in abovementioned first case.
Treatment is
impossible. Changing of partner is inevitable.
3
Switching of man's programs
In the young pairs partners are
equal. The older man has been begun, the more his programs want status growth.
Demands for woman's submissiveness becomes higher with age. If relationships
“woman – the chosen one” or “woman – pseudo-alpha” were equal, such relationships
do not satisfy man who has been become alpha anymore. Man needs more woman's
submissiveness. If man does not get woman's submissiveness, it is led to
discomfort. (SaR, 40) But, of course, man does not
know the cause of it.
Woman is always oriented on keeping
of statuses. Conflict of statuses has to appear. Man has been become annoyed by
woman's behavior, although that behavior was satisfying for him before.
Treatment: real
increasing of man's status in society. Then increasing of level of woman's
submissiveness accordingly new man's status.
4
Social aspect.
In the modern society it is
accepted to suppress the programs. Almost every book on relationships teaches
how to suppress the programs. Almost every book on relationships teaches to
keep such relationships, but sometimes right decision is to stop these cracked
relationships. Such a situation creates a cornucopia for psychologists and
other “relationships specialists”.
Programs cannot be corrected,
programs can be only suppressed. Suppressing of some program has a result of
whole suppressing of man. There is opinion from Freud what programs can be
corrected. But programs cannot be corrected because they are gene code. Gene
code cannot be corrected.
After a reiterated suppression man
turns up into vegetable-man. No strong feelings and no problems will be. Some
men find this state normal and comfortable. To suppress programs or not is the
decision of free will.
SEX AND
RANK:MODERN MAN’S
ANCIENT PROGRAMS
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